Taking the NLP skills you've learned and being able to use them effortlessly outside of the training room is a problem that seems to face many NLPers. Hundreds of NLPers from all around the world have shared through our regular surveys many of the key frustrations they have and a top one is how can I translate my NLP skills more from the training room to the boardroom, business room and bedroom! to name a few.
To be fair, this kind of problem isn't restricted to just NLP. When anyone is being trained there is a fine line between teaching the concepts and theory of a discipline - which will allow you to generalise more easily the concepts but you may have a difficult time finding practical applications vs. teaching a specific step by step technique which will allow you to quickly get a skill but typically people then have difficulty applying it to other contexts. Any good training will address both.
One common application of this challenges many NLP folk report is how can they get past a clients habit (and indeed our own) of focusing on the problem and starting from that place. Often a person can accidentally re-inforce the present/problem state and find it hard to get the client to shift regardless of what pattern they run.
So if you are new to NLP and want to lift your NLP skills to a higher level or not already doing what I am about to suggest then make sure you follow the formula of
Desired State - Present State - Resources
when working with any client (including yourself)
Present State - Desired State - Resources
which I have seen many NLPers fall into.
Although you might think this is only a semantic difference, by approaching your change work from this place you will find you can make the required change much easier and as you elicit a clear well formed outcome that the client wants you will begin to charge and attract that desired state into being.
If like many NLP Practitioners you start by focusing on the problem state you restrict your client from accessing the kind of clearing that they can choose a compelling and desirable end goal, free from the limitations of their current "reality".
And this approach can be applied to anywhere you are assisting your clients such as a consultancy, coaching or even parental context. The context doesn't matter, rather following the approach of figuring out up front, what does the client want, what is their current situation and what resources do they have or need to bring to bear in order to get to their desired state from their current starting point.
By starting your engagements this way you will set the frame towards creating a solution. Of course you want to make sure that whatever they say their desired state is, is indeed one that is solvable and within their domain of control (e.g. solve world hunger vs. feed 100 people this Christmas and inspire 20 other people to do the same).
So as you are out and about this month, use the NLP formula of desired state - present state - resources to enhance your own thinking and help others. In no time at all you'll find your skills can move to a whole new level.