A lot of people who get into NLP believe that getting really good with language is about memorizing countless language patterns.
But you know, that simply ISN'T true. Yes by knowing a few dozen language patterns you can get some level of results, but it still doesn't resolve a bigger problem.
What's that?
Well the Bigger Problem with learning language patterns and NOT UNDERSTANDING what they are doing and why they do or do not work means that you are always tied to memorizing language techniques and not being able to become unconsciously and naturally really
good with language.
Over the coming emails I'm going to talk some more about this and what you really need to do, to get hot with language.
But First …
There is one thing you need to know, and I don't mean conceptually, but something you know in your body as true, and that is:
Words, and they way you sequence and organize the expression of language has a profound on the listener of your language ….
Whether I say to you:
"Orange prison uniforms are cool"
or
"That blindly bright orange prison uniform on that six foot five, mean looking guy over there, to your left, next to the bike shed near the back wall" creates two VERY different experiences for
you. Check it out for yourself in your own experience. What do you notice as different?
Again if we take the example and extend it a bit we have:
"I'm just wondering, you have been learning NLP for some time and from everything that you have done up until now shows that it continues to have some level of interest for you. Yet you don't yet feel you have learnt entirely everything you wanted and because of that you have a sense you would like some things, like your NLP skills perhaps … to be different … much more .. so I'm just wondering how much improvement do you want to do?
Vs.
"Reading this blog post is the beginning of you starting a journey as you are getting into NLP all the ways now and you don't yet know what awaits, but there is a part of you .. that can do so now … because some people when you say this out loud can see that end desired state of how you want to be squarely right in front of them vividly now, others will feel a growing sensation perhaps feeling a that you are going to get really good with language now. Because whatever happens you something has already began to change right now."
Vs.
"You really want to get good at NLP. You've done other stuff before and it hasn't got you fully the results you desire, your hungry to really get good at NLP. You want to be that good, right now. Then you're going to be excited by what is coming down the line."
So which felt best for you?
Were you able to track what IMPACT the different sequence of words had on your mind .. and importantly on your feelings?
Each sample above, did something quite specific and intentional inside the mind-body. And I'm going to start covering this in more detail in the other mails that I send out. But for now, I want you to get that words, and the kind of words you use and the sequence you use them have had a very different impact on your emotions and thoughts. Because what I want you to get if you really LOVE LEARNING LANGUAGE is that the old phrase "It ain't what you say, it's how you say it" is actually quite true when it comes to using language powerfully.
Master Trainer Michael Breen and I cover this in detail on our monthly NLP training program, called the Platinum Audio News Club, which is re-opening its doors next week.
So the first guideline for getting great with language, is notice the IMPACT your language has on yourself and others.
If you are a complete beginner at NLP, then just try asking five different ways of getting something next time your are out with friends. Which one gets you the response you want more of the
time?
If you are more experienced with NLP, then make intentional use of representational sequencing and chunking to figure out the impact your communication has on others. If your up for it play with sentence fragments, switching referential index (i.e. I, you, they) and nomilizations and notice what happens to the people you talk with.
To your increased mastery,
Tom
