If you are serious about really making 2010 an amazing year .. then you first need to get clear on what ways you are living your life and is it supportive of the desire, dreams and goals you want ..
As practitioners of NLP, if something you really want isn't showing up in your life .. we don't need a session with Dr. Phil or an hour long interview with Opera .. or even a confrontational style therapy hot seat with Gerry Springer ..
No you only need to ask yourself one thing …
Are the causes, necessary to produce the desired results in my life … present?
If you want to lose weight but when you ask yourself this simple question, you see that actually no you have yet changed your eating habits, you haven't yet moved past walking more than once in a fortnight .. etc etc …
Then you know that if the causes aren't present .. the effect isn't going to be present also …
And this is the same for business, relationships , or any other area of life. There is always cause-effect relationships at work throughout our life.
A lot of the time, we call can fall prey to the illusion that "Yes, I am producing/doing the causes" in my life .. when really we aren't .. we are just kidding ourselves and skirting around the real truth .. and that is OK .. if not getting the results you want isn't important right now. But if you are sick tired of that and you know you've done more than enough of that in 2009 … then now is the time to transform that. You just need to get a little momentum going in doing the causes that produce the results that you want.
And if you already are, truly producing the causes, you are working out, you are making those cold calls or practicing your NLP skills etc AND you are not yet, seeing the results you want then there are only two things you need to ask yourself?
What is the lag time for producing a result here?
Remembering that any result from make a million pounds to writing your first book etc will have multiple sub-tote's and may have a lengthy chain of cause-effect-cause-effect points along it ..
So it is important that you are measuring to the right expectation and given it adequate time …
For example if I come to a closed door, lean down on the handle and push the door outward … and the door doesn't respond by moving on it's hinges back from me .. pretty much right away .. then I know that either something is wrong with the mechanism of opening (locked, broken, should of pulled instead of pushed etc) or that I'm not dealing with a door! It would be foolish of me to wait 24 hours after applying the correct cause-effect sequence before checking did it work. Likewise if you are working on an big goal or context that has multiple cause-effect-cause-effect elements to it then you can't expect the result to "magically appear" by simply just initiating the first cause .. unless of course the system has its own energy and you have triggered a causal chain like in dominos.
The last thing to ask yourself if you aren't getting the results you want but are doing what you think are the right causes is …
Am I using an effective strategy that REALLY can produce the necessary results?
Much of the time in our eagerness to get going we don't spend take a moment to think if the strategy we have employed will really work or fail to include regular external checks "being clear about when you are getting it". Make sure you do.
So if you want to have an amazing 2010 .. spend a little time asking yourself these three simple questions.