Is it possible to have too much NLP training? It’s a good question.
Not all NLP is the same and not everyone gets the same insights into NLP that Dr. Bandler and a few other top NLP practitioners share.
Some of what is promoted in some trainings (both in NLP and else where) and on various public courses is a form of false learning. Ideas are set up that sound good but aren’t found in the world. Sometimes they are very useful ideas and tools, other times they trap you in a worldview.
Certain ideas are presupposed, specific cause effect connections and new meanings are linked up and "poof" you have the self-saboteur pattern that you now can go search in the world. And when things go wrong it must be because your “inner self is out of alignment with your outer self…”. You get the idea. A lot of ideas promoted in personal development are like this.
Sometimes these ideas help, but often the student forgets what they are - a set of ideas someone has invented as a way of describing something that may or may not be happening. When the student forgets this they lose the important connection between the idea or tool and context in which it is operating and open the door to all kinds of mischief to play havoc in your thinking.
This post shares 12 top ways to know if you have had ‘too much’ of distorted NLP conventionalisms.
If you identify with any of these then you might want to try the “too much NLP” antidote… mentioned below.
Top 12 Ways To Know If You’ve Had Too Much NLP
1. You tend to think people are “visuals”, “kinesthetic”, and “auditory” learners.
2. You think that there is somebody somewhere who has a model that will instantly change everything that is not going right, over night.
3. You think strategies, meta-programs and logical levels are real things in other people.
4. When you don’t know how something works you start talking about abstractions like “trapped emotions” being present “deep in their unconscious mind”.
5. You put way too much value on certificates, courses and titles rather than results, practice and real world observable actions.
6. You spend a lot of your time in chat rooms talking about NLP rather than using it.
7. You’ve heard that the map is not the territory yet you spend more time looking at how other peoples maps are “wrong” than exploring where your own mapping is erroneous.
8. You believe there is the set of secret magic phrases for persuading others and if you only knew these you could make people do what you want.
9. Although you have perhaps been studying NLP for years you still find it is easy for the same people, things and words to trigger your hot buttons, and when it happens you think it’s a problem with them rather than something about you.
10. You bitch frequently about other NLPers or schools of NLP.
11. Most of the books you read for ideas on NLP have NLP in the title.
12. You think NLP is a profession and a something to instantly make you wealthy.
So how did you get on?
Chances if you have been interested or involved in NLP for a while you scored positive on several of these.
Why do I guess this? Because a lot of what I shared is part of the culture that surrounds some people's presentation of NLP, which has been absorbed by many. In fact from the feedback of thousands of visitors to NLP Times - these ideas are widespread, but they keep us trapped inside a worldview.
Maybe it’s time for a change.
NLP is a genuinely an incredible technology, but like I said in my previous post, it’s not a magic bullet or an instant cure-all for everything.
As Master Trainer Owen Fitzpatrick once wrote "NLP doesn’t change your life you do".
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