Why Is Getting Really Good So Elusive?

After spending many years learning NLP I started to wonder...

Why is getting really good at NLP so ELLUSIVE for most NLPers?

Sure you can walk down the street of any major city and find people who can 'tell you' about NLP, the 'fast phobia cure', the 'swish pattern' .. "belief change pattern" and so on .. but how many NLPers can really DO anything more powerful than run a few techniques and talk about "the mystical power of NLP"?

Now don't get me wrong here, for years I was in the same boat and to be honest deeply frustrated with my own 'mastery of the technology'.

Yet, the same-old-same nature of so many trainings and products in the field got me disturbed. I mean, when you step back and think about NLP, a field known for study of the "structure of peak performance" ... and as a group of people who position ourselves as "the experts on the experts", it seemed kinda strange to me that there wasn't a structured or systematic way of getting really good with NLP.

Most of us have read at least two or three NLP books, yet with the exception of a few noted works, the rest are frankly a rehash of the early authors of the field.

After reading another stack of books NLP, the key question that kept coming up for me was:

"Is there something fundamentally flawed in the way I and others have been learning NLP... that is resulting in getting really good at NLP being so elusive?"

Well, one of the answers that I came up with is interesting. It transformed the results and way I now get with NLP...

And it's something that I think might help YOU deal with some of these same challenges....

The Big “Ah Ha!” That
Changed Everything For Me

For years I attended many NLP trainings, and several were world class ... but the more I sat back and looked at what was going on and the way things were structured the more I realized that there must be something more that the very best trainers of NLP knew about getting good at NLP that I didn't...

So I decided to go off an interview many of them .. including Dr. Richard Bandler .. to figure out how they got so good at NLP ...

And during those interviews Dr. Bandler said something to me that seemed kind of counter-intuitive to what I had been thinking all along ... he said:

“The people that have apprenticed with me for long periods of time end up being able to do a lot more. Not because they were exposed to a different class but because the level of perceptions by which they looked at the same thing changed”

And that simple statement .. that simple clarification about what Richard felt was one of the big reasons a small group of people can do things that others can't .. caused me to become very interested in just exactly how the perceptions of .. those who are really good at NLP .. changed ... and were different from the rest of the way NLP is taught in the field.

That one simple shift in thinking changed my focus, took me in a brand-new direction, and ultimately had a major effect on my long-term success... and developing real skill with NLP...

Get The IMPORTANT Things
Right And Everything Else Will
“Fix Themselves”

You see along the way I learned that there are allot of unhelpful ways that most NLPers perceive the technology and major distinctions of NLP that keep us stuck...

You may know the phrase .. its not what your looking at that counts .. but rather how you are looking at it ...

It makes sense, right?

If you look at a door and try to open it by push up against the side where the hinges are then you are NEVER going to be able to open the door by using normal force .. rather you will walk away and say "that door is locked" or "that door doesn't work" ...

You see the BIG error I was making was, like many others around, was I had a "fixed" set of perceptual filters about way the technology worked that was seriously SCREWING things up for me ... and simply just wasn't so...

I was pushing the door on the hinged side all too often and saying ... "this NLP technique doesn't work" or worse heard my friends say "NLP doesn't work!" ... (and generalize one instance to the entire field!)

Yet when I realized that if I could adjust my filters ... to be more in line with the way the real masters saw things .. I knew it would AUTOMATICALLY solve a ton of other problems at the same time...

Along my journey in to figuring out "what isn't so .." I realized there are several common perceptional problems that I was making that were buggering things up.

Read through these and see if they make sense for you...

1. Thinking That NLP Is Something You "Do On People"

One of the biggest stumbling blocks I found that prevents more people from getting really good at NLP is this idea that NLP is something you "do on other people"... and I was guilty of this for years ...

When I changed this world view it made a massive difference to the quality of my life and my results...

Why? ... because you have the following unhelpful world views show up. These were the most common ones for me .. perhaps some of these will ring true for you...

• I can't find enough people to do NLP on
• I don't have the "time" to practice
• I can't practice on a regular basis

You see thinking about NLP in this way blinds you from the secret that I found out the very best trainers and practitioner of NLP orient themselves from .... and that is ...

"NLP is not something you do to people .. it's more akin to a way of life, a world view or operating system that you operate from ..."

When I began to see NLP in this way, then everything changed.

I stopped using what we would call "traditional NLP" based techniques and NLP processes and started creating change and results very naturally .. where NLP became something in the background .. and transparent to anyone who was watching on ...

Things began to happen that simply put .. were so far beyond what I had ever experienced before...

2. Over Focus On The Techniques & Not The Principles

One of the big mistakes many NLPers make, indeed most from what I have seen, is we tend to spend way to much time learning the 'techniques' and have almost no understanding of the underlying principles that are driving the effect of those techniques...

The techniques based approach to NLP, and thinking that the training room exercises or step 1, step 2, step 3 techniques is how you use NLP with real people was one of the first major blocks anyone who wants to get great with NLP needs to overcome... and it is easier than you imagine...

3. Thinking That NLP Is Disjointed and Disconnected ..

OK, this one took a while to get.

For YEARS I had invested a lot of money and time into NLP training courses, programs, audio CD's etc and the more I listened the more unsure I became about how exactly you connect up the seemingly disparate domains of NLP...

It was kind of like walking in the middle of a big forest that is covered in a thick fog .. you know that there is a way out of there somewhere but you just can't figure out where it is .. and you have spent years looping back on yourself ... well that was how I felt about all the different domains of NLP.

You see all of the domains of NLP are deeply connected ...

Before I got how the he Meta Model, the Milton Model, Sleight of Mouth, Meta Programs, Strategies, Sensory Systems and Sub-modalities are all deeply interconnected .. I tended to suffer from the same questions that are common to many in NLP.

Specifically things like:

• How does the Meta Model work?
• How does one install an unconscious strategy?
• Why doesn't this technique work ALL the time?
• Once I got how the field is all inter-connected, things became so much easier...

By seeing things more as they really are .. as seen by the top NLPers out there .. I was able to focus on doing the key things over and over so I could make a massive jump in the results that were now possible.

And almost instantly I experienced a quantum leap in what I could do ...

4. Thinking That Because You've Heard It Means You "Know It"

This one was a bit tricky to get ...

Well getting it actually was really easy, it was truly hearing it, that was 'HARD'...

Being honest with myself, I had to admit that there was in a big gap between my initial aspirations for what I wanted to be able to do when I first came into NLP and what I was could do .. right here .. right now ..

And what made this worse was having to acknowledge that well .. how do I say this .. no amount of trainings, reading more books, attending yet another course or posting on forums .. really meant squat ... IF ... I couldn't use the technology effectively, whenever I wanted to get results 'quickly and easily' ...

So I choose let me ego take a backseat and simply acknowledge that if I wanted to really become more persuasive, influential, create change easily and get all the other wonderful results that NLP offered I needed to acknowledge there was some things I had to do ...

For at least two good years I was locked into this idea that "I've heard all this before" and that "I know such and such a technique" but the reality I realized one day was:

“Learning has happened not when you can recite something .. learning has happened when you have the behavioral wiring .. such that you can DO that something ... ”

And to be able to do that something was really what I wanted ...

The Results Start
“Speaking For Themselves”

So I begun the process of looking at everything with new eyes .. re-evaluating everything I learned about NLP, not through more theory but by doing more practice .. and at first things were somewhat sloppy and progress seemed slow .. but quickly (and with some expert guidance) things REALLY speed up...

I began the process of unpacking all the training I ever received to figure out what was the difference in the way I was perceiving things in the outside world, to the way the top practitioners and master trainers were, and I knew that my "world view" was not accurate with the way other top practitioners and master trainers saw it...

And something very profound happened...my success with the technology started to go through the roof...

• People started asking for my opinion a lot more, because by really getting the Meta Model I could help them re-connect back to what they wanted and see the challenges that lay ahead ... I became a natural trusted advisor friends, family and clients sought out ...

• The time it took to do "interventions" radically shortened and I could get life changing results in ten minutes often times that before would of taken me several sessions and many hours. My confidence and enthusiasm to be able to really help others grew enormously.

• I had women tell me that "it was scary" how well I knew everything about them after only a few hours of meeting them ...

• And private clients told me "I listen to them like no-one else they know .. and help them quickly reach conclusions and decisions that they had been struggling with for years before."

• My large corporate clients told me how "I seem to change people's minds with only words" ... and make the impossible ... possible ..

• And senior members of government told me "I seem to hold an audience like someone whose been presenting their whole life."

• And I knew these "seemingly magical results" were not because I am so amazing or brilliant.

I am very ordinary.

Rather they are the results of developing a powerful understanding and most importantly SKILL with the NLP technology ...and I've since realized that ANYONE can get REALLY GOOD with NLP in record time .. it doesn't need to take decades.

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