Which Strategy Do You Use?

When you think about working with someone do you want a lot of change or a little change for them?

A lot, right?

Me too.

That’s why I invested more than $10,000 on workshops and courses within 24 months of completing my first NLP practitioner training.

I wanted to learn the secrets of how to create lasting change.

But you know what….

…while I learned plenty of techniques and some fun language patterns to affect change, fact is, I didn’t have any real clue how to intervene.

Nada. Zilch.

Some abstract concepts.

A bunch of disjointed frameworks.

A thick book of NLP techniques.

Hundreds of hypnosis scripts…

…but next to nothing on what you are supposed to do.

(Or how to know when you should do it!)

Sound familiar?

Anyways, after many years of searching for answers…

…this lead to an EPIPHANY.

Let me tell you two key things I discovered before I had the epiphany.

I discovered that even ‘famous’ books on NLP techniques and multi-thousanddollar courses have next to nothing on how to intervene.

That’s crazy.

I discovered that many of the guys and gals who lead workshops, offer change work and deliver coaching programs are mostly winging it.

Their intentions are good but they haven’t penetrated the technology deeply.

That surprised me.

Few know how to intervene and package a series of techniques together and layer multiple interventions so the net effect is…

Real transformation.

But that’s not the most alarming thing.

Here’s where I had an epiphany.

After two decades of being involved in personal development, doing change work and using NLP, one day I realized that…

… most people helpers fall back on just one of two strategies for creating change.

Two strategies that cover the approach that 99% of people helpers take.

1. Throwing Shit At The Wall

…hoping something they try works!


2. Making Others Conform To Some Abstract Change Model

in place of…

A. Figuring out where is actually going on

B. Figuring out how you are going to alter it

These two strategies cover what most change agents use.

Both strategies are WILDLY inefficient.

But that’s what many people helpers rely on…


Because no-one taught them a better way.

It’s no wonder so much change fails and even less actually transforms.

Ask any true change master and they’ll tell you doing great change work is not as simple as which technique do you have to apply.

Nor as Richard Bandler once said:

“Is it just trying things to find out what works.” 

“That’s a good place to start when you are doing NLP, at the practitioner level.” 

“But by the time you are a master practitioner level, you should know what the hell you’re doing!”

Fact is most don’t.

Thankfully, after decades of searching, I’m delighted to say there is a THIRD WAY.

A way that anyone can learn and can double, triple and even quadruple your ability to create change for friends, family and clients.

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